Comments on: The Art Of Proposing To A Japanese Girl

By: Kiwi

Kiwi — Fri, 24 Jan 2014 04:25:00 +0000

“Will you make miso soup for me everyday?”
Modern Japanese women: “GO MAKE IT YOURSELF!”

By: Jacob S

Jacob S — Sat, 28 Dec 2013 01:18:00 +0000

I am in a similar position. I am dating a japanese girl and I met her whole family very quickly, but she is very hesitant in introducing me to her Dad. I am told that maybe after new year’s, but I don’t know. To me I feel like I am being disrespectful, but I don’t know.

By: lumiina

lumiina — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 13:16:00 +0000

I have a friend who’s Japanese wife’s parents disowned her for marrying a foreigner. It took them several years to get on good terms again. Not getting permission from the parents doesn’t mean the wedding is off, but will lead to hardship. I think it’s up to the potential fiancee as to whether she wants to risk being disowned or not. For some women, they might rather marry and try to mend their relationship with their parents.

By: lumiina

lumiina — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 13:10:00 +0000

I was proposed to in Japan, as a female American, so I can offer another perspective. At least, on what it’s like to have a frugal proposal. He proposed to me with his mother’s heirloom ring, a giant ring with a huge green stone in a squarish shape and diamonds surrounding it. Despite how romantic the proposal was, finding a boquet of sunflowers under a Christmas tree with a ring attached, I couldn’t get over how much I didn’t like the ring. So we went to a ring store and bought a cute, rose gold diamond ring, but it didn’t cost more than $300 and he used his brother’s money. I honestly don’t mind and could care less about the value of a ring and treasure more the marriage I now have with him. But he is frugal, and so is his family. His family also loves me. They live in the inaka so I don’t know if frugalness often comes with inaka culture. There was no engagement party, and we married in America, his family watching via skype. We do intend to move to Japan after I graduate college.

By: Anthony Jaymes Annis-Rastaette

Anthony Jaymes Annis-Rastaette — Sun, 22 Dec 2013 11:34:00 +0000

Very interesting as more than likely I might be popping the question to my Japanese girlfriend, I have currently met my girlfriends mother who knows little to no English (to thank me once, instead of saying ‘thanks’, she says ‘congratulations’.) and her mother seems to really like me and according to my girlfriend, she really likes me. I have grown to be comfortable around her, and same with my girlfriends older sister.

But the only thing is, it has been well over a year now and I have yet to met my girlfriends father and he has yet to know that his youngest daughter is dating, little alone an American. But I’m sure it’ll be a while until he finds out she even has a boyfriend as my girlfriends sister has a boyfriend of five years (but he is Japanese) and their father didn’t find out until after three years. But I don;t think he is a stereotypical “Asian dad” as how it’s portrayed in America.

By: derio

derio — Fri, 20 Dec 2013 19:33:00 +0000

My wife is also from a very inaka town in Japan, and her father is very traditional, so as soon as we decided we wanted to get married we brought up the subject with her parents. It wasn’t easy, but eventually things worked out.