sooo basically do girls ask for their friends if i like or love them too? is that common? for me it is very hard to read japanese girls. also to me its hard to tell if the girl was drunk because i cant even understand most of the language anyway. …. is it like… is it love? hahaha. so much pressure yet both are cute. hmmm this adventure of living in japan is barely even started too. hmmm confused* ha

ON THE CONTRARY. I’ve always hated how vague western love culture is. I’ve always deliberately hated the guts of it. This concept is nothing new to me as I have always wished for it to be this way. As a resident of the US (I’m French, NOT american! smh!), I’ve hated how the man has to approach the woman. I’ve hated how it’s so hard for me to be able to tell whether a girl likes you or not.

“but I personally think that this system helps to make relationships clear from the beginning and also makes it easier to start dating.”

ABSOLUTELY. I wholeheartedly agree! (Pun not intended) For so long have I had to deal with not living with this kind of system.

“Because of this, we don’t usually need to have that awkward moment of asking “Are we serious about each other?” or “Are we exclusive?” or even “Do you love me?” Men know what is to be expected of them upon doing their kokuhaku and women know what is expected of them upon accepting.”

^ this is how I wish it was in the united states. How would you like it if you felt like you were sooo close to finally getting a date or being able to warm up to them and feel that they are warming up to you, but then you have to figure out when is the right time to have to ask “do you love me” without them slapping you in the face and getting sent back to square 1. (I’m exaggerating about the face-slapping…but not the square 1).

I don’t necessarily know about the entire japanese love culture vs. western love culture. But I must say that in terms of confessions and this subject of love culture Japan absolutely, and without any mercy, crushes the western confession system. Just crushes it. Puts on an iron boot with brass spikes and just impales the west, twists, and then cuts horizontally all while the west’s head is chopped off. But in other parts of japan’s love culture I would have to say that japan would have no choice but to admit defeat from the west and dishonor itself with a full-fledged surrender.

So, from a Japanese (or at least Japanized — hihii) perspective, how romantic are letter confessions? Do you guys think it’s still one of those lame confessions if, say, the two have personally known each other for quite some time? Do you think the man (who writes the letter) is not really that serious about liking the woman (who’s receiving it)? I am thinking too much but this topic really caught my attention. Btw, of course I assume the man is 1. Japanese, and 2. the one writing the letter.