The Reason I Don’t Want to Dye My Hair Black Again

黒髪 (kurokami), or black hair, is globally the most common of all human hair colors. Ordinarily, Japanese people have naturally black hair and so do I. Although many of you guys may still have an image of Japanese women with black hair, there are actually very few women these days who haven’t dyed their hair before.

According to research done by a Manafusa-survey team in June, 2010, 92% of a 36 woman sample group (21-49 years old, average age: 36.5) have dyed their hair on at least one occasion. So if you come to Japan expecting to see girls with black hair, you may be surprised and/or disappointed by the large number of non-black haired women, albeit the color usually isn’t pink, red, or blue like anime characters’ but mostly some shade of brown.

To Dye or Not to Dye

fidol-120713114752-pv2I haven’t dyed my hair for years now, but I used to dye it brown. One reason why I haven’t dyed it for a while is just because I’m too lazy to keep dying it. When my black roots grow back, I always get called プリン頭 (purin-atama), which literally means pudding head.

Purin-atama is a hair color condition that happens a few weeks after dying your hair. When the roots begin to grow back, it gives your head the appearance of a Japanese custard pudding. It’s like ombre-hairstyle, which is where the hair is darker at the top, but fades to a lighter color at the tips. Another reason is because my husband, who is Canadian, really wants me to keep my hair black. Whenever I tell him that I’m thinking about dying my hair, he says, “Please don’t change it, onegai (please)!”

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Well, maybe he’s just modish and just following the trend. The current trend in the Japanese beauty industry is good old-fashioned natural black hair. This sounds a bit weird, doesn’t it? You may be wondering how something naturally occurring can become a trend. I’d say that this explains why so many of the Japanese women who had dyed their hair brown in the past are now dyeing it back to black.

Actually, this black hair trend is seemingly neither a fad nor a craze. It seems that the word ‘kurokami’ (meaning black hair) started being a buzzword in Japanese fashion magazines and blogs in the mid 2000s. Meanwhile, a few shampoos were introduced that focused on the beauty of Asian hair, such as Asience, Tsubaki, and Ichikami, and their sales show how popular they’ve become.

Japanese Guys’ Preference

chart01A January, 2013 survey was conducted where the participants were asked which color of women’s hair is considered to be more attractive to men. 63.7% of the 358 women that partook in the survey said that men would be most attracted to light brown hair. Of the 353 men who participated, 49.7% said that they preferred black hair. Please note, more than two hair colors were presented as options.

A rather large discrepancy in opinion, as you can see. Only 27.7% of the women answered that they thought black hair would be preferred by the men. This result was found by Times Current’s research about the correlation between Japanese women’s hair and their モテ度 (mote-do). If you wondered what ‘mote-do’ means, I apologize. Sometimes it is so much easier to use a Japanese word than to explain in English.

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Mote-do is a slang and is a combination of the verb モテる (moteru) and the counter 度 (do). The verb モテる (moteru) means ‘to be popular with’ and is used relatively often when talking about the opposite sex. The counter 度 (do) is usually used for occurrences, number of times, degree of temperatures or angles, or percentage of alcohol. In this case, is used as a comparative scale.

So, モテ度 (mote-do) means one’s level of popularity among the opposite sex in relation to either physical attractiveness, personality, wealth, fame, or any number of other possible attributes – essentially, how one stacks up against others. What this research indicated was that hair is incredibly important, actually a very highly considered factor for Japanese men and how they view females.

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Now, do you think Asian girls look better with their naturally black, soft, silky, hair – or do you prefer their hair to be dyed? It is clear that Japanese men prefer women to have black hair. So how is that if so many women believe that Japanese men prefer light brown hair, that the trend is turning back to black? Only slightly over one quarter of the women in this survey accurately guessed the preference of men, but it is clear that some Japanese women are fully aware of this fact.

The Reason I Don’t Want to Dye My Hair Black Again

Average+day+in+Japan.+Oh+boy+getting+molested+sure+does_773f97_4344074There is a woman named Airi who keeps her hair brown even though she is aware of guys’ preferences. Actually, knowing that men prefer women to have black hair is the exact reason why she doesn’t want to dye her hair back to black, according to a tweet she made on August 19, 2013. Here is what she tweeted:

私が黒髪に戻したくない(清楚系にしたくない)理由は黒髪清楚系だと、
・男にとにかくなめられる
・痴漢によくあう
・大人しい、従順だと思われる
・大和撫子をイメージされやすい
などの理由がある。髪を染めてばっちり化粧してからは痴漢が激減した。変なおじさんに話しかけられないし、快適。
by Anri @Irispeach

“The reason why I don’t want to dye my hair black again (or don’t want to look tidy and clean) is because a woman who has black hair and looks tidy and clean can tend to have following problems;

-They tend to be looked down on by guys.
-They tend to be molested more often than women with different hair color.
-Black hair tends to give men the impression that they are gentle, quiet, and obedient.
-They tend to give an impression of yamato-nadeshiko*

Ever since I dyed my hair and stopped putting in so much time and effort applying makeup to my face, the number of times I’ve been molested has dramatically decreased. I’m no longer approached by strange men, either. I’m much more at ease now.”

*Note: Yamato-nadeshiko (大和撫子) is a term for the ‘ideal traditional Japanese woman’, who is considered to be feminine while being chaste and devoted to her husband. This is now a somewhat antiquated notion, but is still used as the model for the ideal Japanese women.

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Sure enough, this tweet echoed around the Twittersphere. Maybe it’s just me, but upon reading these comments you may have thought they strayed a little from popular opinion. I imagined this tweet would have received a lot of contradictory comments, but I was surprised to see that the comments were resoundingly in agreement with hers.  Now, let’s have a look at some responses.

茶髪の方が安全なんですね。私も茶髪にしたい。ただ、悪いのは、下衆な男なんだけどね。生まれつきの黒髪の女の子で変えたくない人は困りますし。
by れい @kids1977

“Brown hair is actually more safe? Now, I wanna dye my hair brown, too. Those low-life men are the root of all evil. Girls who have naturally black hair and don’t want to dye it can’t help it.”

私が「ノーメイク+Tシャツジーンズ」を嫌な理由とまったく同じでございます<黒髪に戻したくない理由 私の地元だけかも知れないけどモサい女は男にめっちゃナメられるしセクハラや暴力も受けやすかったのです。
by NaGiSa_FuJiKI @NaGiSa_FJ

“Your reason why you don’t want to dye your hair black again is exactly the same as the reason why I don’t like ‘T-shirt and jeans style + no make-up’. This might only be said in my area, but unfashionable women tend to be looked down on by guys. They are also more likely to be sexual harassed and/or abused.”

ちょっと前にネットで騒がれた「小学生と××するには」の漫画にも「服装がテキトーな子を狙え、そういう子は親に構われてないからお菓子やゲームですぐ言いなりだ」的な事がバッチリ書かれてて寒気がしました。
by NaGiSa_FuJiKI @NaGiSa_FJ

“I found a manga which became infamous online a little while ago called ‘How to F&#k an Elementary School Girl’, in which it actually gave instructions like, ‘Find one who doesn’t seem to take care of her appearance. Those are the ones who aren’t taken care of very well by their parents, so they tend to be more obedient and easily coerced if you give them candies or a game.’ I was disgusted.”

一時期はやったヤマンバメイクにも予防線の意味があったとか
by omiyamairi @ginbreara

“I heard that yamanba make-up*, which was quite popular for a while, was actually done as a preventative method against those acts.”

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*Note: Yamanba make-up

ヤマンバメイクって不思議でしたが、予防線的意味を聞いてからはすべて合点がいったのを覚えてます。女性が直面している生活世界がいかに男性のそれとかけ離れているのかも同時に。男女差に限らず、立場によって直面する世界が全然違う。
by モン=モジモジ @mojimoji_x

“For a long time I wondered why the yamanba girls wore make-up that way, but I remember finally understanding why they do after learning that it’s used as a prevention from harassment. I also became aware that the difficulties women can encounter in lives can be so much different than those of men. Actually, gender difference is not the only thing that dictates the occurrence of these events because the situations we could face are all very different depending on who we are and what we do.”

似た理由から私は体重も増やしました
by Mrs rinnn @erabliman

“I even gained weight on purpose because of similar reasons.”

綺麗でいて良いことは少ないと感じた人ほど早くから美の追求の速度が緩まると思いますよ、あとは環境もありますよね、たぶん。
by Mrs rinnn @erabliman

“I think that those who feel it’s not good to be beautiful tend to lose interest in maintaining their beauty. It could be different depending on their circumstances, as well, though. Maybe.”

I was actually surprised that there were so many supportive responses. Fortunately, maybe just because I’m not attractive enough, I’ve never been molested before. So, I personally don’t understand feeling the need to dye my hair to prevent myself from being molested. Yet, I can imagine how scared they must have been, and likely still are, by being victims, if they believed they needed to dye their hair.

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So whether you have black, brown, blonde, red, or green hair, I’m sure this article will pass through your mind the next time you consider dyeing it a new color. It’s sad that this is a reality that Japanese women need to think about. I’d really like to hear what you think on this topic though. Are there similar issues in your country? What did you think of the sensational tweet about black hair? What’s your favorite hair color and how does it affect appearance? Please share your opinions in the comments below.

  • Thank you

    Thank you very much for posting this and not being rude or coming to illogical conclusions. I hope that if people want to continue this conversation here, they at least do it in a courteous way. And yes, there are other interesting points brought up by this article that can be discussed, too!

  • Mescale

    I’m sorry you feel that way.

    I am interested in having real conversations about real things,

    Maybe we could all just shut up about these problems, they are unsavoury right?

    Maybe we could ignore them and pretend they don’t exist?

    I’m sorry but I’d rather acknowledge these problems, and talk about them.

    I’d rather know about these things and others to know, because if people don’t know there is a problem, then it will never get solved.

    Can all you people who have argued against me, really say that you are arguing against, me because you believe in what is being said, or are you opinions just anti-mescale? This guys an idiot right, so we just disagree with him, whatever he says.

    Are you all saying that the thoughts of women in this article are wrong that their appearance does not matter?

    I’ve posted another post about thsi as well asking are western philosophies about molestation and rape valid nin the Japanese society. Are the issues the same or are there different social dynamics to be considered.

  • Sydnii

    Liking this C-ute friendly post

  • KaoriCamellia

    I have naturally-black hair, like my mother, When I leave it alone and don’t dye it, it almost seems to become darker over time (especially if I don’t swim or get in the sun much). Call it a predisposition, but I find (at least on me) black hair to be boring, so I might go back to having 茶髪 this year. Anyhow speaking to the latter portion of the article, I do find it somewhat reasonable as a precaution to avoid a victimized look, though I’d be surprised if there was some sort of evidence to support such a pattern of victimization (hard when victims of sexual assault feel ashamed to report crime, something that is a problem in virtually every country). It does make me think back though to when I used to have to wait after-hours at night for a ride home from work and my co-workers’ concern that I was out by myself. I wasn’t afraid of doing so, and I never ran into anyone giving me trouble. Whether this was just happenstance or my attitude, who knows, but in either case fortunate. .

  • エジプト人

    So do I. I will be going to Japan soon and I am very scared of harassers…. I hope they are better than where I am.

  • avoiding inappropriateness

    It seems like you only focused on the phrase “a subject that is really uncomfortable” and nothing else, based on how you responded.
    Yes, I do feel uncomfortable talking about this sort of thing, but I bothered to further the discussion against my more feeling judgments. The matter I was trying to address and “stop” by responding to you was not to finish talking about this issue, but rather to finish arguing about the issue in such an emotionally charged way that you are seeming to draw out from both yourself and others in the discussion. That is the uncomfortable portion of this subject, not the addressing of the issue on its own.

    As for the people who argue against you, I think the fact that they are arguing at all should really be enough of a sign that they believe in their points, not that they are out to get you. This isn’t about you. I don’t think anyone knows or feels strongly about who you are as a human being, they just don’t like what is being said because of the content or way in which it is being said. Some just type it out in a rude way, but their points can be there still.

    Also, I never once said that the thoughts of the women mentioned are wrong, nor that their appearances don’t matter. I only stated what I stated in the context in which I stated it. You needn’t look much further in my response than that. Perhaps you should take a day from responding from further comments, to cool down, and then try and respond to them later, when your mind is cleared. It might make the conversations on here flow a little more smoothly.

    Concerning the difference between rape-culture in Eastern society versus that in Western society, I agree that there are probably a good number of differences. I imagine though, that certain basic aspects of such abuse, however, are very solidly founded in each culture. Also, daikiraikimi’s comment really says the gist of such basic aspects.

  • scandalover

    Yay SCANDAL!

  • avoiding inappropriateness

    p.s., when I talk about rape-culture and rape, its not that I am ignoring molestation or the initial points about molestation in the article, but rather I place it in similar respects and category. They flaunt similar aspects in terms of the victim-victor relationship. And yes, I did say ‘victor’, I guess I didn’t avoid inappropriateness with that joke.

  • avoiding inappropriateness

    np, and yes! other topics in the article!
    That プリン頭 was pretty cute. It really does accurately describe showing roots!

  • Senjougahara

    紫が一番好きな髪の色!

    …or at least it would be if it a) was popular, b) done well ever. In reality, I like very dark hair, so black or brown that is indistinguishable from black. It kinda fits in with liking purple. Dark black hair is realized in anime as dark purple hair, or so it is believed by some.

  • Jonathan Harston

    When my ex-wife started going grey she shaved all her hair off and bought a wig ;)

  • Joel Alexander

    To comment on one of the less heavily-charged sections of the article:

    > 92% of a 36 woman sample group … have dyed their hair on at least one occasion.

    36 women is NOT a statistically-significant sample size, especially when you’re talking someone comparatively sedate as “having dyed their hair on at least one single occasion as some point in the past”. =P

  • http://ske48france.tumblr.com/ Rerugan

    It’s sad when people can’t be themselves whatever the reason…
    On the subject of hair color though, my favourite one is the “natural” color :)

  • Senjougahara

    Also, I wonder if highlighting counts as dyeing.

  • Wendy

    I’m currently living in Japan, and I was really curious about this. The paradox I find here is that the less than “quiet, gentle and obedient” or non-Yamato-nadeshiko don’t simply parade with a strong voice against molestation/harassment. I do understand that my more abrasive American way of dealing with harassment is against the Japanese way. Considering how common assaults against women is, I think it would be difficult for the society to decide to hammer down each of those nails that stick out. I say take a stand instead of moulding to something to suit a belief or you just won’t break it.

  • Sugoida

    Personally I don’t have a preference for a specific color.
    Some people look better with different hair colors; there’s no one fits all color.

  • Tuna

    I noticed this line: “You may be wondering how something naturally occurring can become a trend.” and it reminded me of another trend with black women in the US. For a long time black women would chemically straighten their hair because kinky hair was seen as “nappy” and “unkept”. This mostly stemmed from the well known slavery and white dominant culture (since, for the most part, white people had straight hair). Hair’s so important to black women that they say you can’t tell how rich she is by her purse or by her clothes because the money’s in the hair.
    Now there’s a trend for women to not relax their hair and go au natural, my friend’s transitioning to it right now and I’ve never straightened my hair. I thought it was funny though when I heard about it for there to be a trend of getting rid of the chemicals since it was well known that hair straighteners have a lye like chemical that can burn and is toxic. You’d think that black women would’ve ditch the stuff asap.
    It’s funny what two different cultures can have alike.

  • shiro

    How sad that being molested seems to be a daily fact of life for young women here in Japan. I myself have been chikan’d twice and approached by strange men on MANY an occasion. Why do Japanese men feel like they have the license to do these things?

  • shiro

    Ladies, just ignore Mescale. He is (a) trolling, and (b) obviously a victim-blamer. One of those low-lifes who reads about gangrape in the news and thinks to himself, “Well, she shouldn’t have been wearing that short skirt.”

  • http://drakonofthemists.tumblr.com/ Dyke by choice

    Why would elder, baby and mentally/physically disabled rape and molestation happen if it was about appearance? Rape is a crime of control & dominance. No one is asking for sexual abuse by looking a certain way. You are a misogynist prick.

  • http://drakonofthemists.tumblr.com/ Dyke by choice

    Shut your dick you walking abortion.

  • http://drakonofthemists.tumblr.com/ Dyke by choice

    That is the same with all countries. Women are more likely to be victims of rape from men they know then those they do not.

  • http://drakonofthemists.tumblr.com/ Dyke by choice

    Hey Mami can you do an article on feminism in Japan?

  • Mochi

    There are similar things in our culture. I have naturally blond hair. I feel like people were looking down on me because of it. I dyed my hair red, and I will probably never go back.

  • Hannah Whittingham

    Whooooa there. You may heavily disagree with Mescale’s opinion. But seriously? To call him a “Walking abortion”? …That’s …Really harsh. Let’s not go there. Things are getting blown out of proportion here.

    I think people are misunderstanding what he’s trying to say.
    He is in NO WAY SAYING, that it is a woman’s fault if she is molested.

    Or that being attractive is someone the fault of the woman.

    He simply believes, that if the predictor is attracted to the victim,

    that could be a reason for WHY he’s choosing to try and molest her.

    Personally, I kinda agree with it, to an extend.
    If you are conventionally attractive, you may get some unwanted attention.
    This is in NO WAY blaming the woman. Because how can you blame someone
    for there body they were born with? But I think it’s very possible that being attractive in the
    predictors eyes, could make him want to molest a woman.

    But I believe, that in most cases, sexual attraction is not the reason for why a woman may get molested.

    As people have already said, it’s dominance.

    And lets not forget about children who may get molested. In this case it”s definitely about power.

    I also don’t know if I can fully believe this statement of “black haired girls get molested more”.

    Although 49% of men said they preferred black haired girls, there’s a whole 51% of men who voted for a variety of different colored hair. So…What the?

    I dunno. Statistics like these are hard to believe. Especially when they sampled such a small group of people.

  • Kouga

    Sexism isn’t that black and white. If you’re as intelligent as you try to make yourself seem, you’d know this. Just calling a woman a female-related insult isn’t the only sexist thing people can do. Your previous comments where you victim-blame is definitely playing a part in misogyny as well.

  • Julia Bachkurinskiy

    Not just Japanese men, that’s the sad part…

  • Mostly Laarni v・。・V

    You may be right but this is Japan we are talking about. Japan has always been an exception.

  • Mostly Laarni v・。・V

    And perhaps girls who have a different hair color represents the offbeat nature of women in Japan. Hence the term for Yamato-nadeshiko would seem more easily victimized.

  • Mostly Laarni v・。・V

    I have to agree. I’m female and in order not to attract any attention from a potential sex predator I tend to cover up more and not wear makeup nor perfume. It works most of the time. I stand up right away when a man gets too close [way too close invading your personal space] especially on a bus.

  • Mostly Laarni v・。・V

    I wouldn’t say I’m attractive but I’ve been victimized several times since college. What I usually do is stand up right away and get off the bus/jeepney [since this is Philippines] or keep on moving and making noises warning the man that you are ready to scream at any time. I have to agree that there are certain things a sex predator look for in a victim. She doesn’t have to be hot/pretty/good looking. But most definitely someone who wouldn’t seem to make any scene. And you are easily spotted if you attract attention in public by the way you dress or smell [since girls do smell nice, men are usually attracted to smell]. I wouldn’t say a woman should cover themselves up but it helps. It’s a sad reality.

  • Marabeth Duncan

    I always think it’s interesting when watching Japanese Manga that, to me at least, some of the characters do NOT look Japanese. They look Caucasian, and I think it’s the hair color thing. I’ve always thought the natural Japanese look was really pretty. Another thing I think about, too, is how naturally dark hair, when being chemically lightened, turns kind of orangey. I have dark brown hair, and it’s a pain in the butt to try and highlight it. Even when professionally done, it looks bad 2 weeks later. Too much work and money. I can see every once in awhile, when you get bored and need a change, but not all the time.

  • http://drakonofthemists.tumblr.com/ Dyke by choice

    It is MEN’S responsibly to stop rape, not our’s.

  • Senjougahara

    Literally the second most useless comment on this page.

  • Foob Arbaz

    “Fortunately, maybe just because I’m not attractive enough, I’ve never been molested before.”

    Not sure what kind of attractiveness is needed in order to be interesting to people who think they have to hunt their prey. What is considered attractive, though, differs from person to person. I am not attractive in a way that is suggested by the media, but my girlfriend considered me attractive from the very first second.

    Since compliments on looks can be seen as weird in an internet conversation, I will refrain from doing that, but defining oneself as unattractive in general just makes sure, you said something profoundly wrong. :)

    During the whole article I was thinking about what colour I liked most. I guess it’s the light-blueish-headed girls/women in Anime. ;)
    In the real world, I cannot really tell. I find dark red interesting (it kind of sends a message of not caring about opinions, I guess), but attractiveness is not coming from hair colour for me. It’s the face (its expressions) that make a person attractive for me.

    I did not dye my hair yet and I am not planning to. I do not care enough about my hair colour and I would be too lazy to keep it coloured anyway. :)

  • TheSimba5 .

    yes, there are plenty of cases of domestic violence in the last 2 years in my country has incressed a lot.

  • Pe3dr0

    Black hair is the best.

  • Kiley

    “Fortunately, maybe just because I’m not attractive enough, I’ve never been molested before.”

    Oh, Mami. I know you were trying to be glib but it doesn’t work that way. This article makes me all kinds of sad. I have been a victim of molestation at school and sexual harrassment on trains and buses, and by your logic it’s because I’m hugely attractive. No, these situations happened out of opportunity.

    If you’re the husband of a senior teacher at a school that allows you to offer tutoring courses on campus to students with no supervision, that’s an opportunity to prey on vulnerable kids who need help with coursework.

    If you’re stinking drunk on a bus and sitting next to a young female student, and KNOW other passengers won’t do anything as you fondle her thigh, that’s an opportunity to prey on a girl and not caring what she was wearing (jeans, if it matters).

    And oastly, if you’re on a crowded train and no one can tell since you’re all packed like sardines, it’s an opprtunity to reach out and stroke the bottom of the lady in front of you because it’s you can.

    I shouldn’t have to explain that what I was wearing or whether I was good looking because that is never the reason for these crimes. I have always received some unwanted attention from men and women ever since I was a child because my looking like a hapa, but I do not believe this led to any of the above attacks. Due to my paranoia of getting harrassed, I dyed my hair blond hair black, wear trousers, and thick clunky glasses and that shit on the train still happened. And the dude couldn’t see my face since he was behind me, so I know he didn’t pick me on looks.

    I want to say to that girl who wrote the great tweet on not having black hair, good on ya to rebel against the yamato nadeshiko ideal. But I also want to point out that dyed hair or not, there will always be some assholes looking for an opprtunity to grope and they won’t care what hair colour you have. Instead of victim blaming and stressing about how we women should change our looks and behaviour, it’s men who should be taken to task. In Asia especially, the attitude of men can be outright disgusting. Go to Philippines, Malaysia using public transport and there will be men openly leering. I once was holidaying in Thailand and had a nasty experience with a group of Indian tourists who took pictures of bikini clad women on the beach and circulated on FB.

    Why is it women who have to cover up, change their looks, lower their eyes when it’s men who commit these crimes?

  • Mami

    Yeah, I apologize about that. I wasn’t able to find research with a larger sample group.

  • Mami

    Well…I’m not sure but I assume so.

  • Mami

    SCANDAL!

  • Mami

    Interesting indeed!!

  • Mami

    Oh…I’m sorry to hear that. Were you be able to scream or punch into his face on the spot?

  • Mami

    Awwww. yeah, that’s a shame.

  • Mami

    Yeah. It is sad, isn’t it?

  • Mami

    right. すごいだ君の髪は、白のメッシュが入っているよね。。。

  • Mami

    Oh, no. Is molesting pretty common in Philippienes as well? I’m sorry to hear that.
    Yeah, it is a sad reality.:(

  • Mami

    Umm…it may be not an independent factor, but Red Villanueva said her Japanese boyfriend told her not to dye her hair because it would make her look like a bad girl. And I think that it’s a pretty common guy’s opinion in Japan. Molesters usually don’t target at someone who seems to scream or take any action…so the hair color impression could be a protector…I guess.

  • Mami

    Ahaha, I’m happy to hear that you liked the description “purin-atama!” Umm…blond hair! nice:D

  • Mami

    Are you going to Japan soon? Cool!!! For study? or on a trip? I hope you have a great time there.