The Reason I Don’t Want to Dye My Hair Black Again

黒髪 (kurokami), or black hair, is globally the most common of all human hair colors. Ordinarily, Japanese people have naturally black hair and so do I. Although many of you guys may still have an image of Japanese women with black hair, there are actually very few women these days who haven’t dyed their hair before.

According to research done by a Manafusa-survey team in June, 2010, 92% of a 36 woman sample group (21-49 years old, average age: 36.5) have dyed their hair on at least one occasion. So if you come to Japan expecting to see girls with black hair, you may be surprised and/or disappointed by the large number of non-black haired women, albeit the color usually isn’t pink, red, or blue like anime characters’ but mostly some shade of brown.

To Dye or Not to Dye

fidol-120713114752-pv2I haven’t dyed my hair for years now, but I used to dye it brown. One reason why I haven’t dyed it for a while is just because I’m too lazy to keep dying it. When my black roots grow back, I always get called プリン頭 (purin-atama), which literally means pudding head.

Purin-atama is a hair color condition that happens a few weeks after dying your hair. When the roots begin to grow back, it gives your head the appearance of a Japanese custard pudding. It’s like ombre-hairstyle, which is where the hair is darker at the top, but fades to a lighter color at the tips. Another reason is because my husband, who is Canadian, really wants me to keep my hair black. Whenever I tell him that I’m thinking about dying my hair, he says, “Please don’t change it, onegai (please)!”

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Well, maybe he’s just modish and just following the trend. The current trend in the Japanese beauty industry is good old-fashioned natural black hair. This sounds a bit weird, doesn’t it? You may be wondering how something naturally occurring can become a trend. I’d say that this explains why so many of the Japanese women who had dyed their hair brown in the past are now dyeing it back to black.

Actually, this black hair trend is seemingly neither a fad nor a craze. It seems that the word ‘kurokami’ (meaning black hair) started being a buzzword in Japanese fashion magazines and blogs in the mid 2000s. Meanwhile, a few shampoos were introduced that focused on the beauty of Asian hair, such as Asience, Tsubaki, and Ichikami, and their sales show how popular they’ve become.

Japanese Guys’ Preference

chart01A January, 2013 survey was conducted where the participants were asked which color of women’s hair is considered to be more attractive to men. 63.7% of the 358 women that partook in the survey said that men would be most attracted to light brown hair. Of the 353 men who participated, 49.7% said that they preferred black hair. Please note, more than two hair colors were presented as options.

A rather large discrepancy in opinion, as you can see. Only 27.7% of the women answered that they thought black hair would be preferred by the men. This result was found by Times Current’s research about the correlation between Japanese women’s hair and their モテ度 (mote-do). If you wondered what ‘mote-do’ means, I apologize. Sometimes it is so much easier to use a Japanese word than to explain in English.

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Mote-do is a slang and is a combination of the verb モテる (moteru) and the counter 度 (do). The verb モテる (moteru) means ‘to be popular with’ and is used relatively often when talking about the opposite sex. The counter 度 (do) is usually used for occurrences, number of times, degree of temperatures or angles, or percentage of alcohol. In this case, is used as a comparative scale.

So, モテ度 (mote-do) means one’s level of popularity among the opposite sex in relation to either physical attractiveness, personality, wealth, fame, or any number of other possible attributes – essentially, how one stacks up against others. What this research indicated was that hair is incredibly important, actually a very highly considered factor for Japanese men and how they view females.

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Now, do you think Asian girls look better with their naturally black, soft, silky, hair – or do you prefer their hair to be dyed? It is clear that Japanese men prefer women to have black hair. So how is that if so many women believe that Japanese men prefer light brown hair, that the trend is turning back to black? Only slightly over one quarter of the women in this survey accurately guessed the preference of men, but it is clear that some Japanese women are fully aware of this fact.

The Reason I Don’t Want to Dye My Hair Black Again

Average+day+in+Japan.+Oh+boy+getting+molested+sure+does_773f97_4344074There is a woman named Airi who keeps her hair brown even though she is aware of guys’ preferences. Actually, knowing that men prefer women to have black hair is the exact reason why she doesn’t want to dye her hair back to black, according to a tweet she made on August 19, 2013. Here is what she tweeted:

私が黒髪に戻したくない(清楚系にしたくない)理由は黒髪清楚系だと、
・男にとにかくなめられる
・痴漢によくあう
・大人しい、従順だと思われる
・大和撫子をイメージされやすい
などの理由がある。髪を染めてばっちり化粧してからは痴漢が激減した。変なおじさんに話しかけられないし、快適。
by Anri @Irispeach

“The reason why I don’t want to dye my hair black again (or don’t want to look tidy and clean) is because a woman who has black hair and looks tidy and clean can tend to have following problems;

-They tend to be looked down on by guys.
-They tend to be molested more often than women with different hair color.
-Black hair tends to give men the impression that they are gentle, quiet, and obedient.
-They tend to give an impression of yamato-nadeshiko*

Ever since I dyed my hair and stopped putting in so much time and effort applying makeup to my face, the number of times I’ve been molested has dramatically decreased. I’m no longer approached by strange men, either. I’m much more at ease now.”

*Note: Yamato-nadeshiko (大和撫子) is a term for the ‘ideal traditional Japanese woman’, who is considered to be feminine while being chaste and devoted to her husband. This is now a somewhat antiquated notion, but is still used as the model for the ideal Japanese women.

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Sure enough, this tweet echoed around the Twittersphere. Maybe it’s just me, but upon reading these comments you may have thought they strayed a little from popular opinion. I imagined this tweet would have received a lot of contradictory comments, but I was surprised to see that the comments were resoundingly in agreement with hers.  Now, let’s have a look at some responses.

茶髪の方が安全なんですね。私も茶髪にしたい。ただ、悪いのは、下衆な男なんだけどね。生まれつきの黒髪の女の子で変えたくない人は困りますし。
by れい @kids1977

“Brown hair is actually more safe? Now, I wanna dye my hair brown, too. Those low-life men are the root of all evil. Girls who have naturally black hair and don’t want to dye it can’t help it.”

私が「ノーメイク+Tシャツジーンズ」を嫌な理由とまったく同じでございます<黒髪に戻したくない理由 私の地元だけかも知れないけどモサい女は男にめっちゃナメられるしセクハラや暴力も受けやすかったのです。
by NaGiSa_FuJiKI @NaGiSa_FJ

“Your reason why you don’t want to dye your hair black again is exactly the same as the reason why I don’t like ‘T-shirt and jeans style + no make-up’. This might only be said in my area, but unfashionable women tend to be looked down on by guys. They are also more likely to be sexual harassed and/or abused.”

ちょっと前にネットで騒がれた「小学生と××するには」の漫画にも「服装がテキトーな子を狙え、そういう子は親に構われてないからお菓子やゲームですぐ言いなりだ」的な事がバッチリ書かれてて寒気がしました。
by NaGiSa_FuJiKI @NaGiSa_FJ

“I found a manga which became infamous online a little while ago called ‘How to F&#k an Elementary School Girl’, in which it actually gave instructions like, ‘Find one who doesn’t seem to take care of her appearance. Those are the ones who aren’t taken care of very well by their parents, so they tend to be more obedient and easily coerced if you give them candies or a game.’ I was disgusted.”

一時期はやったヤマンバメイクにも予防線の意味があったとか
by omiyamairi @ginbreara

“I heard that yamanba make-up*, which was quite popular for a while, was actually done as a preventative method against those acts.”

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*Note: Yamanba make-up

ヤマンバメイクって不思議でしたが、予防線的意味を聞いてからはすべて合点がいったのを覚えてます。女性が直面している生活世界がいかに男性のそれとかけ離れているのかも同時に。男女差に限らず、立場によって直面する世界が全然違う。
by モン=モジモジ @mojimoji_x

“For a long time I wondered why the yamanba girls wore make-up that way, but I remember finally understanding why they do after learning that it’s used as a prevention from harassment. I also became aware that the difficulties women can encounter in lives can be so much different than those of men. Actually, gender difference is not the only thing that dictates the occurrence of these events because the situations we could face are all very different depending on who we are and what we do.”

似た理由から私は体重も増やしました
by Mrs rinnn @erabliman

“I even gained weight on purpose because of similar reasons.”

綺麗でいて良いことは少ないと感じた人ほど早くから美の追求の速度が緩まると思いますよ、あとは環境もありますよね、たぶん。
by Mrs rinnn @erabliman

“I think that those who feel it’s not good to be beautiful tend to lose interest in maintaining their beauty. It could be different depending on their circumstances, as well, though. Maybe.”

I was actually surprised that there were so many supportive responses. Fortunately, maybe just because I’m not attractive enough, I’ve never been molested before. So, I personally don’t understand feeling the need to dye my hair to prevent myself from being molested. Yet, I can imagine how scared they must have been, and likely still are, by being victims, if they believed they needed to dye their hair.

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So whether you have black, brown, blonde, red, or green hair, I’m sure this article will pass through your mind the next time you consider dyeing it a new color. It’s sad that this is a reality that Japanese women need to think about. I’d really like to hear what you think on this topic though. Are there similar issues in your country? What did you think of the sensational tweet about black hair? What’s your favorite hair color and how does it affect appearance? Please share your opinions in the comments below.

  • Red Villanueva

    it crazy right? :) but yah i think black hair is the best but sometimes i get tempted to dye it due to boredom~

  • Red Villanueva

    a lot of young girls here gets molested by men sometimes even by their ojisans and dads… theres also jikans here… i punched one before in the bus~

  • Red Villanueva

    :P

  • Red Villanueva

    theres this people here who where garbage bags when raining…

  • Sholum

    I just chose one to reply to; I didn’t actually read these in depth, since you didn’t compose them.

    Anyway, lets start off with something real basic:
    When did I say that women should allow themselves to be stepped on as second class citizens? That’s an awful big leap to take from my analysis of your particularly sexist comment claiming that men alone are responsible for women and that rape is the fault and responsibility of every man on earth.
    Quite simply, how do you paint me anti-feminist when I don’t mention the movement at all in my comment?

    As for the feminist movement itself, I liken it to labor unions; it has served a great purpose, but now everything is going to their heads and ruining the whole deal (labor unions are terrible things these days (and yes, I’m biased as a citizen of a right to work state, but that’s neither here nor there in this conversation)). See, there are two kinds of feminists: those who want equality and those who want control. Sadly, when most people refer to feminism, they mean the latter. Please don’t take it as an insult that I think you’re the type who thinks men inferior to women (I’m more convinced of your misandry than before, but still nothing definite).

    So, through your quoting of articles that aren’t yours, I’ve deduced that you mean to misrepresent my argument against you by painting me to be a misogynist.
    I’m not a misogynist. If you want to make me a hater, you should just call me a misanthrope and be done with it, because I hate the stupidity of humanity far more than anyone could hate a sexual division of said humans (it’s much easier to make the jump that I hate all humans than it is to say I hate women). See, when you ignore what people look like and focus on their character, you can have a far more engaging relationship with the person.

    However, there are people like you, who seek to hate others without any logical bearing. If you’d take the time to think through your own words and the words of the opponent, you might be able to realize just who is being the discriminatory individual.

    Simply said, while I can judge any individual equally (and harshly, if I feel like it), you are sexist and see men as inferior and thus instantly accountable for anything that happens to women. If a tree killed a woman, you’d instantly blame some male deity or simply the guy that owns the property on which the tree stood. I’d say the tree fell on the woman and since the tree didn’t have will, it was simple chance, nothing to be done.

    As for your use of others’ works; it’s distasteful to use them like this. Please use your own words when arguing with someone; it’s only proper courtesy. If you wish to reference the article, link to it. If you wish to quote a portion to make a point, do that. However, you should not simply copy and paste someone’s words to make your own point without using your own words as well.

    Finally, I’ll take a moment to restate my earlier points so that you might understand them better:
    - You’re a hypocrite. You blame all males for the crimes of some (not necessarily males).
    - You belittle women by suggesting that they can’t protect themselves and that they aren’t responsible for themselves.
    - You don’t understand the slightest about human behavior or its causes.
    - Sexual predation is horrible, but it is not the crime of all males, nor is it only the crime of males.

    As expected, you disappointed me with your reply. If you wish to continue this, please argue your own points instead of using articles to suggest them.

  • linguarum

    Exactly. So if a girl changes her hair based on what *she thinks* guys won’t like in order to avoid being molested, it may not work so well anyway, because she’s only guessing what guys won’t like. Besides, what happens when she gets off the train and meets man she wants to attract? Maybe she should keep a wig in her purse so she can do a quick change depending on the circumstances? The whole thing’s so ridiculous..

  • Kim

    Am I the only one who is thinking “Tweets in Japanese contain much more information than English tweets”?

    PS I think now is the right time to hear ‘Back in Black’
    http://youtu.be/H8PC1_3fjvs

  • Mami

    …that’s so sad. It could happen anywhere in the world i guess, but I’m always sorry for those girls…:(

  • Mami

    Tweets in japanese seems to be so…I don’t know why. Does anyone know??
    (I mean, I don’t do tweet.)

  • Mami

    :D not many though:P

  • Mami

    (´・ω・`)

  • Mami

    I really understand how you feel!

  • Steph

    What is the how to fuck an elementary school girl title in Japanese? Or could you provide a link? I want to see if this is real, as a mother of two girls I am outraged.

  • Kim

    I think it is because English words that contain e.g. five letters contain one or two kanjis in Japanese.

    “Japan” = 5 letters
    “日本” = 2 kanjis

    So because of the sign-limitation on twitter, you can write more if you do it in Japanese than in English.

    PS ‘Paint it Black’ would be a suitable song here too (because of the title ofc).
    http://youtu.be/n1zBG2TEjn4

  • Mustafa M Tani D

    Really interesting article. Funny how I’m the opposite of your husband in that I prefer my wifes hair to be brown.
    In regards to repelling guys by dying hair light brown and through makeup. I think it works because in general I never feel comfortable even asking a question of someone if they were “extravagant”

  • Jessha

    What I find interesting is that Japanese girls can’t really recognize natural colours of another culture. I find it incredibly easy to recognize if someone has dyed their hair, but every single time I go to Japan, I’m asked again and again if mine is dyed. I guess another reason it’s shocking to me is that no one dyes their hair dirty blonde here, so my reaction is pretty much “No? Why would anyone CHOOSE this colour?” I’ve been told by others that I have a nice hair colour, but I’ve always just thought it was bland because it’s stuck between blonde and brown, and no one really wants that. On the other hand, my hair is sometimes mistaken for brown (sometimes being under 5 times in my life), but Japanese always know that it’s technically blonde.

    And hair culture in Japan is really strange to me in general. There’s a sort of mentality that long hair is ALWAYS BETTER. When I cut my hair, the only negative comments I got were from Japanese people. Literally everyone else said I looked better, and a few actually thought I lost weight because the style suited my face better. The Japanese would just go “Why did you do that?” or “Were you dumped?” Even before I cut it, my Japanese friends would pretty much shout no at me and actually beg me not to when I said I was thinking of it.

  • エジプト人

    I have already gone now, for study. Not sure about the harassers though yet.

  • AuronZanark

    In my opinion, Asian women, especially Filipinas, look better with naturally black hair than dyed hair. Blonde and light brown hair colors are characteristic of Caucasian women. I’m sick of Asian women dyeing their hair blonde or light brown or trying to look Caucasian. If you’re naturally black-haired and you go blonde or vice versa, it less often than not looks good on you. Overtime, blonde hair dyed from naturally black hair turns orange. Asian women with dyed hair age faster than those with undyed hair. If women of color, especially Latinas and Filipinas, dye their hair blonde or light brown, their ethnicity will be called into question.

  • Amber Payne

    I am very pale, so I’ve always stuck with red (my hair loves red) or black. I am naturally a dark brunette with red highlights. I love purple, so I’ve tried black-purples, but they always turn out reddy purple, and FLAMING reddy purple in the sun, on natural hair no less, so I gave up on that. I know that for a long time here, dyeing your hair black made people think you were goth or emo, so often it earned you dirty looks. Brown hair is associated with mousy, quiet, nerdy girls (glasses girls). Blondes are supposed to be wild and crazy and up for anything, and dumb as posts. It’s silly how people associate personality traits on other people based on their hair colour/style alone. Some of the nicest people I knew in high school were goths, or people with crazy hair.

  • Amber Payne

    Oh, and I just wanted to also say, I think you’re selling yourself short. You look pretty and cute to me! ._.

  • Bmm209

    It’s a really big deal in african american culture. I’m transitioning my hair now. But the whole ‘straight/sleek hair’ thing really is deeply entrenched in the culture. There’s a lot of hate on both sides relaxed or natural. With many black girls they got it relaxed when they were kids or teens so you kind of grow up thinking your hair *has* to look like that.

  • Skyeaten

    I don’t care if people think Mami-san isn’t an expert in the field. How you appear physically is a determining factor on whether or not you get perved on. Obviously. No one can deny that much.

  • Fhil

    My Japanese girlfriend has light brown hair (natural) And I love it. It depends on the person but I do like brown hair a lot but that could just be because of my current girlfriend. Still no Natural color is bad!! Most of the time is better because it blends with the rest of your face.

    Nothing wrong with Japanese having Brown hair, my girlfriends two older sisters dyed their hair Brown and it looks good. And my girlfriend has Natural brown hair which looks awesome^^

  • Mark

    No offense to you as a Yamato person, but your article gives the impression that Japan is the land of molestation. Deliberately putting on fat as a profilaxis against sexual abuse?! Seriously? Sheesh, so much for Congo as the world capital of rape.

    Anyway, what surprised me most is that in Japan people associate black hair with such adjectives as “gentle, quiet, and obedient.” In the West and, especially, in Eastern Europe, it’s kinda the other way around. Natural jet black hair is very rare if not outright nonexisten among Germanic people, so dark hair is associated here with Mediterraneans, who are popularly viewed as craftier than our blond, blue-eyed folks. I speculate that it may also have something to do with the fact that Europid chilren tend to have lighter hair than Europid adults, and, of course, children are associated with innocence.

    A combination of black hair and fair skin can look great. Looks like the only populations where it’s naturally common are Northeastern Asians, some peoples of the Caucasus, Ashkenazi Jews and, perhaps, some Persians. Don’t like rouge with it; then again, I find rouge unappealing in general; at worst, reminescent of flushing from hypertension.

  • lfrohling

    I love girls with black hair. Brown/blonde hair looks so fake and boring. True more people in Asia have it but at least it’s REAL. And that’s (one of the reasons) why I find it sexy :) (PS. I’m a male and have lived for years in Asia)

  • Jae

    I’m surprised that Japan has not considered a law of limiting passengers or making more seats O_o

  • Frankykoo

    I am Asian man, and I agree that I like darker hair like black or dark brown for woman. Highlighted hair is the one I hate most especially if the highlighted color is very light color like gray color, so it looks like gray hair growing long…yuck…!!

  • TomoOgawa

    SCANDAL <3

  • James

    Have to agree with the some of the women here, even as a guy I cannot see any good reason to stalk or molest a woman I can only think of reason why not to do it. Anyone who thinks women would be okay with any of that is just stupid, also I have to say I didn’t think that they would be so shallow as to only care about girls that looked good or didn’t look good, and that online book about elementary school students the readers seem like pedophiles in training and the author sounds like he/she is already a pedophile that has already struck at least once.

  • ##

    It’s some really messed up stuff that women would need to take the risk of getting molested into account when just picking a hair color. As a guy I get disheartened sometimes by the image some men give us.

    Setting that aside, here in Sweden I hardly ever see a soul with black hair, so I find the color interesting. I think it looks very neat and pretty on Asian people. In general, I like when people stick to their natural color. In the end it usually looks best that way, I think.