Birthdays In Japan

Japanese birthdays are not as big a celebration as they are in the West. In fact, there was no custom of celebrating birthdays in Japan until around 1950! Before this, there was only one day on which to celebrate birthdays (everyone’s birthday) and that day was New Year’s Day. This was because ancient people thought everyone got older on New Year’s Day, not the day they were born. Since then, however, Japan has been influenced by Western culture, so they started celebrating people’s birthdays on the date of their actual birth.

In Japan, the only time you’ll organize your own birthday party is when you are a child, although your parents likely played a bigger part in the actual organization of it than you did. The cake is a “must” and we sing “Happy Birthday” in the dark and blow the candles out on the cake (a 1:1 ratio of candles to years). It’s the same as Western culture, isn’t it?

Now that I’m an adult, I feel uncomfortable when someone says “Hey, I’m having a birthday party on Sunday. Can you come?” In Japan this discussion would take place in a conversation amongst friends like, “Hey, Mami’s birthday is on April 9th, so we are planning a birthday party. Are you available that day?” When someone celebrates their birthday, though they can have a say in where to go or what to do, it’s customary that when making arrangements, inviting people to it and paying the bill is not their responsibility. Food is, of course, a big part of Japanese culture, so it is very common to be treated to a meal on your birthday. A lot of restaurants also anticipate birthday parties being held there, so they keep cake and candles on hand for such occasions.

In the case of my husband and I, he doesn’t like being the main person of focus or attention, so he never plans an event to celebrate himself. Knowing how much he dislikes it, I’ve only organized a party for him once.

Birthday For Couples (Women)

However, this sort of “surprise” party is usually held a few days before or after the actual birthday because the birthday person may have a boyfriend or a girlfriend and they usually go on dates for special occasions. Even high school students, if they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, will go on a date for their birthday.

According to research conducted by Ozmall in June, 2011, 56% of 800 women ages 20 – 29 years old want to spend their birthday alone with their boyfriend or husband. As for a presents, 27% want accessories, 20% want to go to a restaurant, 17% just want to spend some time with their partner, 9% want to go on a trip within Japan, 7% want to travel abroad, 6% want to be proposed to, 5% want brand-name things such as bags or wallets, 2% want a watch, and 7% want something else (miscellaneous).

Many of these participants said that the reason for wanting an accessory was “because I want to feel my boyfriend/husband is with me at all times.” Isn’t that romantic? Lovey-dovey vomit tummy! Ugh, I just tasted the gyuudon I had for lunch.

Birthday For Couples (Men)

The same organization conducted another research study among 200 men who have a wife or a girlfriend and about 70% of them answered that they go on a date for their birthday.

In regards to presents, most of them actually answered that they would be happy with anything their girlfriends gave them, but they do have a preference for what they would like to do on their birthdays. 28% said that they would like to go on a “dinner date to a fancy restaurant,” followed by 16% who wanted to “stay in a hotel,” 15% who wanted to go on an “onsen date,” 13% who wanted a relaxing night in, 6% who wanted to go to a theme park (ex. Disneyland), 4% who wanted to watch sports, another 4% who wanted to eat at an average restaurant, 3% who wanted an relaxing spa date, 1% who wanted a beach date, and 10% wanting other things (miscellaneous).

I think you can see a lot of the differences between men and women right there.

Romantic Birthday

So, the birthday is as important for Japanese couples as it is for couples from many other countries. Although most couples don’t bother making plans that fall very far outside the norm, others want to be very unique as a way to show their boyfriends/girlfriends that they are special. A classmate of mine from university falls into the latter description. I remember he once wrote a poem on the back of a picture of himself that was enlarged to life size and gave it to his girlfriend at a Kobe beef steak restaurant. If I was her, I might have been embarrassed because he told me this monstrosity (imagine a Justin Bieber life-size poster) was standing behind them throughout their entire meal at a fancy restaurant. Apparently, the girl was very impressed and quite taken by the amount of thought put into her present.

Trying to make your significant others’ birthday very romantic is not only a Japanese thing, but a commonality shared among many countries. According to S(Initial) , a 35-years-old female, she dated a very romantic German man for a while and now she’s having a lot of difficulty finding a nice guy like him. Here is her description of her romantic birthday.

“On my birthday, he gave me a picture frame with three pictures in it. There were three messages, one underneath each picture. The picture on the left was of him when he was a baby and the message read “I was born into the world, and…” The middle picture was a picture of him and me together and the message read “an angel…” The one on the right was a picture of me and him hugging each other and the message read “caught me” (Her cheek turned red as she spoke). It was such a great present and I felt so happy.”

The border between cheesy and romantic is so difficult to distinguish sometimes. What’s cheesy to some is romantic to others. Personally, I think this was adorable. I hope my husband doesn’t read this article so I can do the same thing for his next birthday. Think he’ll like it?

Lame Birthday That Turns Women Away

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Although some plans work out well, like the one above, others could be considered cheesy or lame and cause women to turn away. I found and shared a few of the lame ways in which men confessed their love to women in my previous article: Japan’s “Love Confession” culture. Why not learn the type of birthday plans that turn women off, as well? It’s often said that “failure is a stepping stone to success”, right? Luckily, I found research conducted by my-navi-woman from June 3 to June 10, 2013 in which over 389 women were asked about this topic. Let me share some of them! (I apologize in advance for not being able to find one for the opposite sex, which would be “lame birthday plans that make men flee”)

「期待しといて！1日予定空けておいて」と言われて、めっちゃ期待したのに、結局ノープランだった（32歳／女性）
I was told, “Look forward to your birthday and please be available the whole day”, but he ended up having no plans. (32 year-old-woman)

How bad is that? Was the surprise that there was no surprise? If so, good work! You shocked her right out of wanting a boyfriend. I wonder why he couldn’t come up with anything, though. I mean, even a last minute idea could be a “yakiniku birthday” where you spend the whole day out eating lunch and dinner at a yakiniku restaurants and fill in the gaps at the mall letting her pick out a shirt or two.

レストランで店員さんにハッピーバースデーを歌われた。全然うれしくなかったので、喜んだふりするのが面倒だった（29歳／女性）
In a restaurant, all the waitresses sang “Happy Birthday” to me. I wasn’t happy at all, so it was difficult to pretend as if I was glad. (29 years old woman)

It seems that being sung to in front of a lot of people would more than likely be embarrassing for most adult Japanese women – perhaps most people? I certainly would be, anyhow.

ディズニーランドに行ったときに、彼氏がいろんなスタッフに「彼女の誕生日なんです」と言って至る所で歌われたこと（28歳／女性）
When we went to Disneyland, my boyfriend told every single staff member, ‘Today is my girlfriend’s birthday”, and every single one of them sang “Happy Birthday” to me at every single place. (28-year-old woman)

This may be more embarrassing than being sung to in a restaurant! Hey, since we’re at a theme park, you might as well just tar and feather me, throw pies in my face (preferably strawberry), set me up as the dunkee at a dunk tank and hire a comedian to crack jokes about me while I dirty up the water.

オリジナルソングを歌われた（35歳／女性）
I was sung an original song. (35-year-old woman)

Original songs can be a death sentence, unless you are really good at it. I think you also need to have a relationship with a few thousand miles clocked up for that to work. Perhaps not, but I think a truly good original song would come from knowing someone really well.

サプライズをするつもりが自分で事前にばらしてしまった（34歳／女性）
He was planning a surprise party for me, but he accidentally told me. (34-year-old woman)

That’s a bit careless. Maybe he was too excited about the party to keep it secret from his the person he most loved. Actually, that might be the perfect thing to say to get yourself out of that blunder.

誕生日プレゼントを宝探しのように探させたかったみたいで、暑い中蚊に刺されながら探した。プレゼントを見つけるまでに疲れ切ってしまって、もうどうでもよくなりました（30歳／女性）
He wanted me to find the present he got me, like a treasure-hunt, but it was summer and I had to look for the present outside on a very hot day while being bitten by mosquitoes. He hid it very well, so I had exhausted myself before finding it and gave up. I literally thought, “Whatever!” (30-year-old woman)

I guess he wanted to make it like an attraction in a theme park. Live and learn, I suppose. Next time make it a little easier. Not everyone wants to solve a Rubik’s Cube on their birthday.

誕生日を祝おうと言われて彼氏の家に行ったら彼の両親や家族が勢ぞろいしていた。サプライズの方向がおかしい（28歳／女性）
I was told “Let’s celebrate your birthday” by my boyfriend and I went over to his house. Then I found out that all his parents and relatives were there. It was such a weird surprise party. (28-year-old woman)

I believe that most of women need time to prepare when they meet boyfriend’s parents and his relatives. Furthermore, it is weird that only his family and relatives were there on her birthday and not her friends or family, isn’t it?

誕生日に彼氏が私の好きなアニメのコスプレをして登場した。3次元にそういうの求めていないし似合っていないし最悪だった（25歳／女性）
On my birthday, he showed up dressed as my favorite anime character. First of all, I don’t like it when 3D people try to be 2D. Furthermore, he didn’t look like the character at all. It was horrible. (25-year-old woman)

It’s pretty sad that he didn’t look like the character at all. I wonder what the character was. I hope it wasn’t a titan from “Attack on Titan” because they don’t wear any clothes.

高崎白衣大観音に連れて行かれた。渋すぎる……（29歳／女性）
I was taken to Takasaki-byakue-daikannon. It’s too cultured for me. (29-year-old woman)

Takasaki-byakue-daikannon (aka Takasaki kannon) is a huge statue of Kannon (the goddess of mercy) at Jigen-in temple in Takasaki city in Gunma prefecture. It’s height is 41.8m and it weighs 5,985 tonnes. It would be fine for a normal day, or even a date, but a temple is too cultural of place to celebrate a birthday. I wonder why he decided to take her there. Perhaps he didn’t know her very well, yet.

誕生日なのに、仕事帰りに彼氏の知り合いの誕生日会に参加された（23歳／女性）
Although it was my birthday, he joined a different birthday party after his work. (23-year-old woman)

That’s a Japanese guy for you. Not all of them, of course, but many of them make work, or even friendships between men, more of a priority than girlfriends and relationships.

So, how do couples celebrate birthdays in your country? I heard that in Portugal, celebrating before the actual birthday will bring you bad luck. Are there such birthday related superstitions where you are from? How do couples spend their time on each one’s birthday? Do they give presents and what is commonly given? What is your most memorable birthday involving a significant other?

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“You know I be drinkin’ dat Crown Royal, son.”

Japanese Princess Mako (who seems to have permanent :3 face) recently turned 20, getting media coverage all over Japan. And while some of you might think that this some bullshit news story about a monarchy that has no real power or purpose in this day and age, you’d only be mostly right. (But that doesn’t mean you have to be so cynical about it!)

But this isn’t just any birthday; this is Princess Mako’s 20^th birthday. And in Japan, 20 is when you’re officially considered an adult. When you’re 20 in Japan you can vote, buy cigarettes and most importantly, (legally) buy booze!

Like practically everything in Japanese society today, the importance of this age comes from the Meiji Era. As a mini-history lesson, the Meiji Era was an era at the end of the 1800s when Japanese society was pretty much completely restructured. It was during this time that the Japanese established the age of 20 as the age of majority.

This age has become so special that it’s even built into the language. Typically, when you talk about age in Japanese, you say the number followed by sai. For instance, I’m twenty-two, so in Japanese I would say that I’m nijyuni-sai. But there’s a special word in Japanese for 20-year-olds: hatachi.

And best of all, newly-minted Japanese adults have their very own national holiday!

Coming of Age Day

Probably the coolest part about turning 20 in Japan is Coming of Age Day (Seijin No Hi). In the United States, reaching 21 is celebrated by going out with friends, getting black-out drunk, and coming to regret everything that happened during that time. But in Japan, things are a little bit more refined than that.

It all started right after World War 2, when the Japanese had a generally really low morale after the devastating war. A young man in the city of Warabi decided to organize a youth festival to boost people’s spirits and from there, it took off.

“Coming of Age Day 2011 wooooooooooo!”

Early every January, Japanese communities across the country honor all the people who turned 20 in the past year. Women dress up in kimonos so fancy and expensive that they often have to be rented or borrowed; and men don their most dapper suits (or more traditional attire). Everybody gathers together in a public space like an auditorium or civic center and hold a big ceremony celebrating these new adults and welcoming them into adulthood.

Sometimes people celebrate Seijin No Hi in a more religious way, staying closer to Shinto traditions, but generally the holiday is a fairly secular affair filled with speeches and the like.

After the big ceremony though, the new adults usually go out and get trashed. I guess there are some traditions that are universal.

And thanks to Japan’s awesome “Happy Monday” system, Coming of Age Day is guaranteed to fall on a Monday, meaning that it’s part of a three-day weekend! Man, being an adult is awesome!

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What is This Thing and Why Should I Care

Hatsune Miku is a female singing synthesizer application developed by Crypton Future Media. Her name is a combination of the Japanese words for first (hatsu), sound (ne), and future (miku). Her voice is sampled from a Japanese voice actress named Saki Fujita.

Vocaloid on its own is a singing synthesizer application that was developed by Yamaha. It allows users to synthesize singing by typing in lyrics and melody, therefore granting the gift of song to those who can’t sing. It utilizes Yamaha’s Vocaloid synthesizing technology combined with the vocals of various voice actors and singers.

One popular Vocaloid compilation (Exit Tunes Presents Vocalogenesis feat. Hatsune Miku) debuted at the number one spot on the Japanese Oricon charts in 2010 and became the first Vocaloid album ever to top them. Hatsune Miku “performed” her first “live” concert during Animelo Summer Live at the Saitama Super Arena in 2009. And by “live” I mean a projected image of the Vocaloid singer performed. Miku also performed in the USA this summer but, I mean – you could just get yourself a projector and have one of her “concerts” anywhere. Ta~da! It’s magic. From the future!

Hatsune Miku and the Vocaloid Army

When Miku was initially developed, Crypton decided to take a different approach than they had before. In the past they had mostly focused on music industry professionals, but this time around they wanted to appeal to the masses. They decided that in order to make the product successful, they needed a highly appealing voice and a highly appealing image to go with it. The lofty task of creating this image fell to a manga artist by the name of Kei Garo.

When Kei designed Miku, his only instruction was that she had to be an android and her color scheme had to be based on Yamaha’s synthesizer’s signature cyan. After Kei had created his monster, Crypton then crafted and posted Miku’s personal data sheet. The data sheet only detailed her “physical” and technical attributes, allowing the masses to associate with her whatever traits they’d like best in a Vocaloid overlord. Her stats are as follows.

• Name: Hatsune Miku
• Birthday: August 31, 2007
• Age: 20
• Height: 158cm
• Weight: 42 kg
• Suggested Genre: Pop/Dance
• Suggested Tempo Range: 70~150 bpm
• Suggested Vocal Range: A3~E5 (roughly mezzo-soprano down to bass range)

Influence On the World As We Know It Today

Nico Nico Douga (Japanese equivalent of YouTube), played an important role in forcing the Vocaloid plague upon us. Soon after Miku’s public release, Nico Nico Douga-ers started posting various Miku videos. A popular video featuring Hachune Miku (chibi version of Hatsune Miku) singing “Ievan Polkka” showcased the unlimited potential of the software and all the creative things people could implement it into.

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Miku is also responsible for bring us the dreaded Nyan Cat meme. Miku along with all the other Vocaloids are masterminding ALL the memes to control the masses so their feeble human brains will be ripe for accepting the inevitable Vocaloid uprising. You’ve been warned.

In November of 2009, a petition was launched in order to get a custom made Hatsune Miku plate made and attached to the Japanese Venus spacecraft explorer Akatsuki. On December 22, 2009, the petition exceeded the needed 10,000 signatures, and Akatsuki was launched with three plates attached depicting various images of both Hatsune and Hachune Miku. Because it just wasn’t enough for the Vocaloids to conquer the world – they had to conquer space too. Way to go handing them everything on a silver platter, humans. Way to go.

After the Tohoku earthquake and tsunami, a number of Vocaloid related donation drives were implemented and Crypton joined several other companies in donating to the Japanese Red Cross. In addition, a special Nendoroid (a brand of small plastic figures, created by the Japanese Good Smile Company) of Hatsune Miku, Nendoroid Hatsune Miku: Support ver., was announced with a donation of 1,000 yen (~$13) per sale to the Japanese Red Cross. A nice act of charity to be sure, but don’t be fooled by their good deeds. They’re just buttering you up for now, but before you know it you’ll be shining the shoes of your new virtual master.

A Vocaloid Future Awaits..?

Despite the success of Vocaloids in Japan, us Westerners have been reluctant to jump on the overlord bandwagon. However, some musicians like R.E.M.’s Michael Stipe praised it when it was first announced (but there’s a good chance he’s a Vocaloid too, I think). He noted that one great thing about the software was that it would give singers a way to preserve their voice for future generations and as technology progressed, it could even be used to bring back the voices of singers who have already been lost. I can see it now – Vocaloid Frank Sinatra, king of the overlords, serenading you all the way to the salt mines.

Crypton blamed in part a fear of robots (well duh, obviously) for the lackluster response overseas and expressed that there was a general anti-Vocaloid prejudice (the resistance is assembling already! There may be hope for us yet!). However, Crypton has also noted that they hope this will change over time as the software continues to be developed and updated. And by that I’m sure they mean “as the Vocaloid brainwashing system is perfected and implemented.”

There Can Be Only One – Vocaloids vs Humans

Let’s compare the pros and cons of Vocaloids to real life human artists, shall we?

Pros

• Can never die and therefore can make consistent music forever and ever
• Are virtual, so their talents can be used and seen anywhere, anytime
• Technology could be used to “revive” musical artists from the days of old

Cons

• “Live” concerts are kind of lame
• That feeling that it’s not “real” since it’s more or less just a synthesized voice doing the singing
• They’ll soon rise up and conquer the world

So – do you think that the popular music world of the future will be one dominated by Vocaloids? Is this just a passing fad? How will it influence and shape the music world and will it ever become popular outside Japan? Will our new robot overlords be merciful and kind or merciless and cruel?? ONLY TIME WILL TELL.

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