Comments on: Should Men, Or Women, Be Paying For A Date?

By: James

James — Wed, 09 Apr 2014 15:45:00 +0000

I would expect for the guy (like myself) to pay for things, however if the woman I’m dating asserts in some way that she wants to pay part of it I’m not against it.

By: Alex

Alex — Fri, 21 Mar 2014 06:00:00 +0000

However, I find the whole ritual and history behind it quite charming. In today’s economical and relational state, I believe it might simply be very upseting for any modern young men for having to deal with this.

In Canada, men will pay for a date if there wife dont have a job. Other than that, it is quite not attractive to have a silly dependent child expecting to have everything for free. We like women strong, smart and independent. As we mustly all have careers, it is just normal to expect women to feed themselves. Of course in Canada, men do there chores, hopefully. Maybe if I was dating a child, a mistress or a prostitute, in that case, I would pay for her meals.

With the direction Japan is going, it only seems logical that they take a similar turn as other foreign countries.

By: Sittie Fairoza Alonto

Sittie Fairoza Alonto — Sat, 18 Jan 2014 04:35:00 +0000

I think those Japanese men are taking the gender equality a little further. Despite the concept, there are still men’s role and women’s role. I think it is rude to ask a girl to pay (be it partially or not). It’s not like we girls won’t like to pay, but it is very insulting on our part. We will offer to pay when we have some amount, just wait for us; and do not ask us in the face! Also, complaining about it is really a turn off. It demotes machismo.

I am speaking from my cultural perspective.

By: Daiyu Hurst

Daiyu Hurst — Wed, 20 Nov 2013 15:07:00 +0000

I’m nearing the end of my first of 4 to 6 semesters of Japanese, so I’m not sure if I have this correct or not:

私はあなたと一緒にラブホテルに行きたいません!

By: hashi is koichi's bodypillow

hashi is koichi's bodypillow — Sun, 17 Nov 2013 04:43:00 +0000

I’ve never been on a date, but I think that whoever you are, it is a nice gesture to pay for your date. splitting the bill isn’t very romantic but if one person orders small fries and a coke while the other person orders confit lobster a la mode in red wine and saffron jus with pheasant rosti bisque and a chardonnay merlot 1467 vintage, the first person should pay more. if someone is really rch or suggests a fancy restaurant like fried chicken de la kentucky they should pay

By: Tuna

Tuna — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 07:15:00 +0000

I find it simpler to go by who initiated the date. If someone asked me out to a restaurant for a date I’d expect them to pay if I wasn’t given enough time to gather my money, similarly if I asked someone out I’d pay since I initiated it and they might not have a lot of money on them by the time the date pops up. But if they give me fair warning, or we’ve been dating each other long enough so that it doesn’t matter, I’d split the bill or even cover it all depending on how long we’ve been dating.