My bust is bigger than yours and I’m pretty sure my thighs are too but I still ended up on a date. Men are men are men. Some will be attracted to you and some won’t be whether they’re Japanese or not.

I’ve known my Japanese boyfriend for over 5 years. We’ve only started dating 10 months ago. I am not Japanese (I don’t look like one either from close distance), but I am a South Asian – so I could relate to the Japanese culture better than Western counterparts. First off, we were good friends and then decided to date because he liked my personality.

First of all, this is kind of shallow but – not all Japanese guys prefer the stereotypical ‘pale skinned, thin, big-eyed’ girl. My boyfriend didn’t care what skin color I was, or whether or not I was ‘thin’, or ‘big-eyed’. I’m pale-skinned for a South Asian (sometimes paler than a Japanese person) due to my Dutch heritage, I was a ‘normal-sized’ girl, and I just happen to have ‘big eyes’. But he told me that he would still like me even if I had dark skin and small eyes. So no, looks is not everything guys – remember that!

So yes, he liked me for my personality, and not my looks – and because I was apparently different from Japanese girls – but not too different. I was different because I was not Japanese and obviously follow all the traditional Japanese customs of an ‘ideal girlfriend’, but I came from an Asian background so the differences of culture isn’t that drastic.

(Just as stated above), I met my Japanese boyfriend overseas. We speak completely English in our relationship – because despite having English as both of our second language – his English was really good. He (and I) also grew up in an American environment – so he understood how non-Japanese culture is.

For example – he doesn’t mind PDA with me, he LOVES it because it gives him the chance to show me off to his Japanese friends. He respects (and loves) the fact that I want to be a career woman and be able to be independent. He actually admires my ambitiousness and how independent I was – something that some Japanese girls aren’t. There was no ‘getting the guy’ for me, rather he was the one ‘getting the girl’ – and communication was easy since we both speak fluent English and have been friends for years. He was also open to expressing his feelings (rather it’s always me that has a hard time expressing my feelings)

His family loves me though – his parents don’t speak the best English but we’re still able to get along (with help from the boyfriend occasionally posing as a translator lol). His siblings also likes me too. I think this is due to the fact that the whole family was exposed to American culture and life for a time – so it changed their perceptions of foreigners. His Japanese friends also seem to accept me and regard me as the ‘cool exotic girlfriend of xxx (my boyfriend’s name)’ (yes, that’s what they told me haha). Although communicating is sometimes tough with his other relatives and friends who don’t speak English that well – as my Japanese is not at a fluent level yet so without the help of my boyfriend translating it can get quiet embarrassing.

Anyways, he’s my first boyfriend and I’m his first girlfriend. I think that this whole relationship has gone really well. I learned so much about Japanese culture and customs through him. He was always open about dating a foreign girl (me) – and I think that he might have even bragged about it. So yeah, no problem here so far haha.

Well anyways, that’s just my long-ass two-cents about this article lol. Just a thought.